There is this strange ideal about happiness that makes the many of us think that such a thing we idealise as ''happiness'' can be obtain by getting what we want, whatever that is.
Historically and anthropologically, if we bother to analyse such things; happiness became both far more complicated and far more varied, despite the elements that we believe can shape happiness appear to be simple.
We can find so called happiness in so many things today; one waits and camp for days for the new iPhone, another jumps from a club to another or from a video about happiness to another about motivations. The complexity and variety of the various strives for happiness of nowadays have also brought into being some incredible superficiality such as the charlatan nonsense of stuff like ''law of attraction'' and modern ''spiritual'' escapes and the capability to engage whatever self-proclaimed identity we like to possess but that we are not, which is a game vastly gambled through and within the social media communication and engaged with pictures and videos and claims of a life we do not actually have.
It also seems that happiness has become a ''must'', a necessity, otherwise one becomes automatically boring, bored and excluded.
How much suffering and confusion are covered up by those millions of pictures of people smiling, having fun and revelers?
Very few seem to understand that the urge of happiness actually contains the opposite of happiness, otherwise one won't be in that position of seeking happiness.
This means that if the strive for happiness comes into being from a condition of unhappiness, some sort of existential dissatisfaction or boredom or whatever it may be, and such conditions are not analysed, then the pursuit of and for happiness can only be the result of unhappiness, which is exactly why so often our searching for happiness results in something that is never enough, something superficial and something that turns into a mere distraction from the solid understanding of our own mind and reality.
Reasonable happiness is not an evasion; it's a spontaneous outcome of a proper thinking, not the result of a desire to search for happy moments, neither the strive to reproduce past forms of happiness projected by our memories.